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Internetting A Lesbian Partner with Online Dating


Kathy and I run a support group for lesbian and bisexual women who are coming out, and the subject of online dating came up recently. Some of our members have found the love of their lives through online dating, and some have experienced situations that would make great plots for a stalker movie. Since Spring is in the air, and many women are ready to start looking for love, we thought we'd put together some advice we've learned about online dating.

First and foremost, please use caution.The Internet can be a wonderful place to meet great women, but there are also a lot of people out there who are single for a reason. The reason could be drugs, alcohol, or any other form of addiction, like addiction to chaos or drama.

There are also a lot of sexual predators in the world. These people are excellent liars, and can suck in even the most savvy and intelligent women. Sexual predators can be either female or male, but many are men who join online dating service as females. Some are looking for bisexual women for themselves or for a threesome with their female partners, and some think that they can magically change a lesbian's sexual orientation. This is why it is really important to talk on the phone to someone you are interested in as soon as possible, and ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS listen to your intuition.

That said, we thought we would list a few things to help you if you are considering meeting women through an online dating service. This advice is from our own experiences online, and actual posts from women in our Support For Lesbians Coming Out group who have been in online dating situations:

1. JUST COMING OUT AND ONLINE DATING
When a person is just coming out, she can be vulnerable. There's nothing more exciting than your first contact with women who are like you, but please remember that online dating needs to be approached with caution for both your physical and mental health. If you are feeling fragile, online dating may not be the place to start. A lot of seasoned lesbians do not want to risk getting involved in coming out issues and the potential pain involved. On the flip-side, the benefits of online dating are meeting other women in your area who are lesbian, and getting to know your local LGBT community.

2. LESBIAN LONG DISTANCE DATING

Unless you are rich and can travel to foreign lands, it's best to date women in your country, and better yet, in your local area. If you never actually meet the person you are having a long distance relationship with, you are pretty much living in a fantasy. To really get to know someone, you need to spend a lot of time with them personally, and we don't mean moving in the first day you meet. We mean spending quality time together doing things that both of you enjoy, which is also known as dating.

Kathy and I knew one lesbian couple who met in a chat room. They "dated" online and on the phone for over a year, but never met. They fell hard for each other, and finally decided that they should live together. The drawback to this was that one lived in Australia, and one lived in the United States. The one in the United States opted to leave her job, sell her home, and move to Australia to be with the love of her life. The relationship lasted less than 3 months, and the woman from the United States had given up everything for a fantasy.

We've heard of at least 50 stories like this, and what we've learned is that you have to be mighty careful with online love affairs. If at all possible, you should meet the person and date her personally as soon as possible. Dating local means you may not have huge phone and travel bills, and it saves on expense when you do finally meet face-to-face.

3. ASK MANY QUESTIONS, AND THEN ASK SOME MORE

If you start emailing back and forth with someone who seems compatible, keep asking questions. For any relationship to work, there are many things that two people must be on the same page with. For example: if you are an animal lover who could never give up your furry babies, it would be horrible to find out that the person you are wanting to get serious with has horrible allergies and she hates cats and dogs. It's better to find out sooner than later, and it's very important not to give up who you are for a relationship.

4. MEET IN PERSON AS SOON AS YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE

If you find someone online that you love to email with, we suggest also speaking on the phone, and then eventually meeting this person in a public place, like a restaurant or a coffee shop. The only successful, long-term relationship stories we've heard from women who have met online are when they can actually date each other, in person, for an extended period of time. It's easy to "fall in love" with the fantasy of someone online, only to later meet and find out that this person is not who she, or in some cases HE, said she was.

5. TELL A FRIEND

When meeting someone for the first time, always tell a trusted friend where you will be, and what times you expect to be there and then home. Always call your friend if there is a change in plans so that she will not be worried.

6. MEET IN A PUBLIC PLACE

When meeting someone for the first time, always meet in a public place--not a motel or a person's private home. Have your own transportation that you can leave in if things get weird, and make sure that the person does not follow you home.

7. FIRST MEETING AND THE BEDROOM

When looking for a serious long-term relationship, a good thing to do is to date and get to know the person before you go to bed with her. Sex only screws up the perception of what is real and what is not. If you get to know someone, you can then fall in love with her, not with sex. Don't become the Lesbian U-Haul joke of your community.

8. SAFER SEX

If you do end up in bed, always practice Safer Sex until both partners are sure that they are not testing positive for any Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Safer Sex is not a guarantee that you will still not catch an STD, but it's better than unprotected sex.

9. THINK WITH YOUR HEAD, NOT YOUR SOUTHERN REGIONS

The best advice we can give is to always use common sense and your "Woman's Intuition." If someone seems "Too good to be true" she probably is. Remember to think with your head, not your regions down South. There are a lot of people who use online dating just for sex, so be careful and always listen to those warning signs. If you are interested in just sex, then find websites that are designed for that.

10. IF YOU ARE PATIENT AND LISTEN TO YOURSELF, GREAT THINGS CAN HAPPEN
We don't want to scare you with bad online dating stories, because we believe that online dating can be a great way to meet new people. Sure, there are crazies everywhere you go, but there are also good, honest women out there, just like you, who are looking for love. Be safe, have fun, and date until you find your female mate.



NOTE:
The advice in this column is the opinion of the writers and is not intended as a
substitute for medical or psychological treatment from a health care professional.


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