1. Am I lesbian, bi, or straight?
   
2. I’m not sure what I am; is it easier to act straight?
   
3. Is it wrong to call myself a lesbian?
   
4. I hate that people put me in a box with the label lesbian! Why do I need a label?
   
5. Sexuality is Like a River
   
6. I feel hate for myself. Is it worth it to be a lesbian?
   
7. My therapist says I’m a lesbian because of my childhood abuse. Is this true?
   
8. I think I’m a lesbian, but men keep asking me out. What do I say?
   
9. My boss said that I must be bisexual because I have kids, but I feel totally lesbian?
   
10. I have no problems being gay or straight, I just want to be one or the other?
    
11. I’m wondering if I could go back to being straight?
    
12. Do all gay people look gay?
    
13. Will my body tell me that I’m lesbian?
    
14. I know that I am not completely “straight." Where does this put me?
    
15. I thought I was asexual
    
16. I noticed a woman at the gym, I’m scared I am a lez?
    
17. I loved your Coming Out Guide, but I’m still not sure what I am?
    
18. Do people who question their sexuality ever decide that they are heterosexual?
    
19. I saw a movie with women in love, and I think I may be lesbian. What now?
    
20. If I’m a lesbian, why did I get turned on watching gay male porn?
    
21. Interview about being lesbian
    
22. I don’t want to be in love with a woman! I want a normal life! What can I do?

Chapter 2 Coming Out and Fear Issues

1. Why do I hate the words we are called?
2. I’m not comfortable with the words we are labeled with. Is that normal?
   
3. Is it normal to feel guilty about being lesbian? I’m over 40, from a religious background and I’m just now figuring this out! Have I wasted my half of my life?
   
4. I’m terrified of acknowledging that am a lesbian!
   
5. I’m attracted to women but at the same time feeling extremely homophobic. What can I do to accept myself?
   
6. I hate myself for being a lesbian. What can I do to change? How can I be lesbian? I don’t want to be different, and I totally confused as to what I am.
   
7. I’m over 40 and I’m just now coming out How did you know when you were so young?
   
8. I’m pretty fem. How do I let other lesbians know that I am one too, without outting myself to straight people?
   
9. Commentary by Tracey: Coming Out is an ongoing process
   
10. I’m scared to go to a support meeting because my cousin is lesbian and she might be there! What should I do?
    
11. Help! My GF’s sister heard us last night! What should we do?
    
12. Isn’t it better to choose love over fear and always be out in public?
    
13. Will being lesbian cause people not to respect me?
    
14. My GF is scared to be a lesbian. What can I do?

READER REVIEW: I am so glad I found your books, they were just what I needed to come out of my shell. I was so ashamed of my feelings for other women that I buried them very deep, then I ran across your book, downloaded it, and read it at night when I felt safe I would not get caught (I was 48, divorced with 4 kids and could not admit it to myself or my therapist). I must say "you guys have have definitely rocked my world!" I appreciate your honesty and how you don't beat around the bush. I am now out to some people, but more important I no longer feel isolated and ashamed. Thank you Tracey and Kathy, I hope to see more books. Raimee S, Rapid City, SD

Chapter 3 Coming Out In School

1. Something kind of happened with my best friend, but I’ve never been with anyone. How do I know what I am?
   
2. I’m under 18, and my parents are are horrible to me because I am lesbian. What do I do?
   
3. I just turned 21, and I’m terrified to tell anyone that I am a lesbian. What do I do?
   
4. I’m in High School, and I’m really having trouble accepting that I am lesbian. What can I do?
5. My step-father kicked me out for being a lesbian, and now my brother won’t speak to me. I’m 18 and living with my GF, but I’m heartbroken.
   
6. My mother hates my GF! What do I do?
   
7. I’m not sure if I’m gay or bisexual
   
8. How do I handle my parents when they both hate gay people?
9. Even though I’m lesbian, I’ve always been real flirty with guys, but now someone is stalking me! What should I do?
   
10. My brother is being a jerk about me being a lesbian! HELP!
    
11. I’m in college and I feel lost in alone. Not sure what I should do?
    
12. I was accused me of being a lesbian at a Christian College. I’m scared that I am, but how do I know for sure?
    
13. Should I come out at a Christian College?
    
14. I told my mother, and she flipped out and is blaming herself! What can I do?
    
15. How did you come out?

READER REVIEW: I especially appreciated how attention was given to the younger aged women/girls who are making this transition. Tracey really puts emphasis on the importance of getting an education to enable one to live the life they truly believe they were meant for, without having to depend on anyone else. That kind of positive support, in this day and age is invaluable. Though, I'm much older, I found the information to apply to me as well. Thanks! Michelle R, Los Angeles, CA

1. I just can not be a lesbian! Is it easier to just get married to a guy?
   
2. A guy is hitting on me at work What should I do?
   
3. My husband is really upset about me being lesbian. What should I do?
   
4. I’m spiritual, married, and fairly happy, but I’m not attracted to my husband?
   
5. I know I am lesbian, but I’m scared to leave my husband and the life we have together. What should I do?
   
6. From mother of two, to two mommies!
7. SFLCO Member Commentary: Thoughts about staying in a marriage that you were not happy in.
   
8. How can I do this to my family?
9. My ex-boyfriend is an “ex-gay,” and he thinks I should choose to be straight! What do I do?
   
10. Thoughts about Faithfulness
11. I’m bisexual with a husband, but I have attractions for women. What do I do?
    
12. My husband became angry when I told him I think I’m a lesbian. What do I do?
    
13. My husband has beat me up, and is turning my kids against me. What can I do?
    
14. My husband has become violent and has threatened my life. Where can I go?
    
15. My husband has baracaded himself in a motel room and is threatening to kill himself! What should I do?
    
16. My husband shot himself in front of me. I’m filled with guilt on how to handle this.
    
17. Coming out of an abusive marriage
    
18. How do I find Ms Right?
    
19. Life is Too Short To Live a Lie
    
20. My counselor convinced me to commit to my husband for another year, but I know I’m in love with a woman?
    
21. I’m having an affair with a woman, and I’m afraid to leave my abusive husband?
    
22. Can two people who are both gay just stay together for their families.

READER REVIEW: I'm from UK, but have lived in Spain for the past five years. I have a young daughter and last year, when I split with her step-dad I decided to explore my sexuality--the sexuality I had ignored for YEARS! I came out as bisexual to my friends and this year, came out as a lesbian. The only thing that helped me understand me were the "How to be a happy Lesbian" and the "Coming Out Advice" and "Relationship Advice" support books by Tracey and Kathy, who started the support group. I cannot express enough to everyone to get these books and read them. If you find this support group helpful, these books will really be the icing on the cake! Tara, Barcelona, Spain

Chapter 5 Coming Out to Family and Friends

1. Commentary by Tracey: For anyone who is having trouble coming out to her family:
   
2. Is it wrong to be dishonest to people just to make them happy?
   
3. How do I handle homophobic relatives?
   
4. My GF is in the closet to everyone. What if she gets in an accident and I never find out?
   
5. I’ve got to go to my brother’s wedding, and I know my family will be bugging me about getting married. How can I handle the stress of this event?
   
6. It’s the holidays, my GF is coming to live with me, and I’m afraid I will be outted! What should I do???
   
7. I’m an adult living with her parents. I want to come out, but I’m afraid to do it. What should I do?
   
8. What Selfishness Looks Like
9. My mother is a total homophobe!What should I do?
10. My GF is mad because I won’t come out. I don’t want to loose her, but what can I do?
    
11. Why is my best friend upset over me coming out?
    
12. My parents are being horrible to me and my GF What can I do?
    
13. The prejudice of coming out.

Chapter 6 Coming Out To Our Kids

1. I think I just came out to my boys! Now what do I do?
2. How can I do this to my kids?
   
3. How I came out to my daughter
   
4. How do I explain lesbian sex to my kids?
5. How I Came Out To My Kids
6. SFLCO Member Commentary: Raising kids in a lesbian relationship
   
7. A friend told me I was using my kids so I don’t have to come out!
   
8. About Raising Kids
   
9. My daughter is holding religion over my head. What can I do?
10. Dealing with Homophobic Teenager.

READER REVIEW: I love both your new Coming Out and Relationship Advice books. You deal with some very difficult issues in a very frank and to the point manner, yet you do it very lovingly and with amazing humor and wisdom. I highly recommend these books to every newly out lesbian. In fact, I'm sure the books will be helpful to all lesbians no matter what stage of coming out they are in. You give us all of your sage advice and wisdom from coming out as teenagers to coming out later in life; from internalized homophobia and self-hated to self love and acceptance of ourselves; from meeting other lesbians online and in the real world, to dating and into long term relationships; from leaving abusive relationships (or marriages) into self reliance and standing honestly in our lives as totally actualized lesbians; from a disorganized LGBT community into ideas about creating a cohesive and well organized LGBT community keeping personal differences away from the main goal--a free to be who we are type world with equal rights for all! I highly recommend your books to every lesbian who is struggling with coming out. Heck, it is a great advice book for anyone, heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, asexual, etc. This is a very practical and important book that challenges, advises, and supports newly out lesbians as we emerge from hiding in the closet out into the Light of day! DJ Messier, Portland, ME

Chapter 7 Coming Out and Religion

1. My Church has called me an abomination! What should I do?
   
2. Section concerning religion from: “How To Be A Happy Lesbian: A Coming Out Guide”
   
3. "What about what the Bible says?
4. Coming out of the closet as an LDS woman.
   
5. When will I find the strength to tell the truth?
   
6. If there is no marriage, then when is it committed or monogamous or moral? And what exactly is “going all the way” between lesbians?
   
7. My Minister has demanded my children! He has outted me, and I’ve lost all my business!
   I’m ruined in this town! What do I do now?
   
8. I’ve been rejected by my church, and I’m thinking I may just go back in the closet for good!
   
9. Response to a homophobic column in a Local Newspaper
   
10. Stepping up on the Religious Soapbox!
    
11. Tracey’s Religious Soapbox.

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