Women and Their Amazing Dreams
Hymoweche (GH): Can you tell me more about the things Amazing
Dreams does and what kind of company it is?
Tracey Stevens (TS): Amazing
Dreams Publishing started out as lesbian book publishing company,
but has grown into a huge networking and support system for women
worldwide. Our website receives over 2 million accesses from over
100,000 different visitors each month.
Our company took off in an unexpected way when a woman emailed
me about our book: "How To Be A Happy Lesbian: A Coming Out
Guide." She said she was married and coming out in a small
town in the Midwest, and even though she loved the Coming Out
Guide, she wanted to know more about how she could come out of
Kathy and I didnt have a chapter specifically on married
lesbians. We were primarily writing the book for younger women
who are coming out. When this woman emailed me, we decided to
open an online support group for all women who are coming to terms
with their sexuality--whether they are lesbian, bi, or questioning.
Now the Support For Lesbians Coming Out group has over 600 members!
Our support group has members from all over the world, including
countries where being a lesbian can get you executed. We have
had many women email us that our group has actually saved their
lives! I never thought the company would evolve in this way, but
I do believe that this work is the most important thing I've done
in my life to date.
Cathy Wonder (KW):
I think the most important thing that Amazing Dreams does is offer
a place for lesbian women to come that is totally accepting of
them; a place of love, caring, and understanding. I'm thinking
mainly of the support group in this. The company is about self-acceptance
and acknowledging the power we have as women. People tend to forget
that when they are struggling with an issue, or several issues.
For many, the website and support and networking groups are places
that are safe. The groups provide support from women who have,
or are, going through similar experiences. The other services
offered on the website are resources that help women to acknowledge
the self-power and the beauty of the female spirit.
GH: What impact do you hope the
company makes on lesbians?
TS: Our company is for all
women worldwide, but our primary focus is to provide a safe space
for lesbian and bisexual women online, especially those who are
coming to terms with their sexual orientations. The impact we
hope to make is for women, and the people who love them--lesbian,
BI, straight, transgendered--to have more fulfilling and happy
lives. Our Coming Out Guide and our Support For Lesbians Coming
Out group concentrate on how to accept yourself as a lesbian or
bisexual woman. Our Sex Tips Guide is written with inclusive language,
for anyone, female or male, who loves women.
Basically, we hope to have a place where all lesbians and bisexual
women can feel at home--like they've found a safe place that is
specifically for them. We get emails all the time that say things
like "Finally! A place for us!" These emails are what
helps us to keep going. We've set up nine pages of comments from
people who have emailed us here:
Anytime I get caught up in the drama of the Internet--and believe
me, there are days when I wonder why the heck I am doing this--I
just go to the Comment Pages and start reading how Kathy and I
are helping people worldwide. That totally puts the hard times
KW: The impact I hope that
Amazing Dreams makes on lesbians and bisexual women is that each
person is unique as they are, and that accepting this part of
themselves can only make them stronger. Hopefully, if enough of
us can make this shift, then there will be a change in society
at large. We must accept ourselves first in order to stand in
the truth of who we are. Be that lesbian or bisexual, single,
coupled, or parent. If we conform to what friends, family, and
society want, then we loose ourselves and become someone else's
construct. We reflect their thoughts, hopes and dreams, and we
then have no identity other than the one we allow others to fit
GH: What inspired you to write
"How to Be A Happy Lesbian" and "Lesbian Sex Tips?"
Do you consider yourselves sex experts? If so, why?
TS: I had written several
novels, and I had tried to include helpful information about being
lesbian in a fictional way, but then my mentor, Patricia Nell
Warren, said, "Why don't you write a nonfiction book to get
your message out?"
I'd been the director of the Writers' Guild of Western North Carolina
for two terms, and two of our members had done workshops on how
much easier it is to sell nonfiction, so when Patricia suggested
writing a book on being lesbian, it really clicked for me.
As far as being a Sex Expert, I wouldn't say I'm an expert at
it, but I'm darned good! I had a background of sexual abuse and
I'd been struggling with issues surrounding sex for years because
of it. When I was younger I read everything I could get my hands
on about sexuality to try to understand what happened to me. In
the process, I learned a lot about technique. If you go to an
incest group you'll find out that a lot of these women are "good
at sex." We've been driven to know more about it to try to
make sense out of what happened to us.
I wanted to help women come to grips with their own sexuality,
and also help them to deal with problems I'd worked through. The
Coming Out Guide started out as a "how to make love to a
woman" handbook. But then, as I started doing research for
the book, I realized there was so much more information I could
share with readers, so the book grew. For example, I have a section
on famous gay and BI women, because everyone needs good role models.
I had no idea until I got into the research how many famous people
are, or were gay, or lesbian. I thought it would empower people
to know about them; it empowered me.
KW: Tracey pretty much sums
it up with her answer. When she had the idea to do these guides,
I felt that a counseling perspective could really play a key role
for people. None of us learn how to communicate effectively, argue
effectively, or know what to expect when we need a therapist or
how to choose one. We especially have no clue about domestic violence.
Oh, there is more awareness of these things in society now, but
for some reason, a lot of women in the process of coming out think
that communication will be easier, and that there is no violence
of woman on woman. These were messages we felt needed to be out
GH: Are you both partners
or spouses? What is your relationship to one another? Can you
tell me a little about how you met if you are partners or spouses?
TS: I would say we are both
partners and spouses. We write the books together, and I run the
publishing company while Kathy works as a Licensed Professional
We've been together for 16 years, and during that time I've grown
and learned a lot! I came up in abuse, and had been in therapy
for years, but I will say that living with a therapist, I don't
have a chance to get away with anything. The biggest issues Kathy
has helped me with is my communication skills and fear issues.
I was writing for several years before I met her, but I really
think that if it wasn't for her, I wouldn't have had the ovaries
to start my own company and sell our books. For me, it took a
tremendous amount of courage to come out to the entire world,
and Kathy was there to support me in this decision all the way.
She also put her career on the line, and has actually been turned
down for work because of us being so out with the books and all.
It's just sad that in this day and age there are still so many
homophobic people around.
As far as how we met, it happened in a Post Office, and it was
meant to be. I had a novel I was mailing to a publisher, and I
knew I had to get to the Post Office and mail this book at exactly
10:13 AM. Thirteen is a magic number for me, the number of the
Goddess, so I figured that's why this was in my brain that I had
to be there at that exact moment. I wasn't even supposed to leave
work, but I did anyway, and I drug my coworker with me who was
When we walked into the Post Office, I saw Kathy talking to a
guy. My gaydar went off, but she was touching him while talking.
I'm not a real touchy person, so I was thinking "Gay--Straight??
Gay--Straight??? Is she GAY OR STRAIGHT????" About that time,
my lesbian coworker went over and started talking to them both,
so I went to the counter and mailed the manuscript. When I came
back down the hallway, Kathy and I were introduced.
KW: We are definitely partners.
We don't use the term spouse and won't until we can legally get
married. For us, it is a matter of principle. As Tracey said,
we've been together for thirteen years. This year will be our
fourteenth. We did meet in a post-office. I tease Tracey on this
story since the guy I was talking to was old enough to be my grandfather.
That was our initial meeting. The second meeting was at an apartment
of a mutual friend. We hit it off immediately, checking out women
in swimming suits around the pool, from the window at the apartment.
We stayed casual for about a month with our "dates"
and then had to acknowledge the all around attraction for each
I may have helped her with issues but she helped me as well. I
had been in therapy in my early 20s and thought I had a grip on
my own issues. Funny thing about therapy; you can work on issues
in theory (when you are single), but being in a relationship really
challenges you to look at issues you didn't know you had, or thought
you had resolved. It reminds me of the Indigo Girls song "Power
of Two." Working together we have dispelled many of the monsters
beneath our beds.
GH: How did the company get started?
TS: I had been writing novels
for ten years, but couldn't get anyone to accept my work that
featured mostly lesbian characters. I did get very positive feedback
from several of the women's publishing companies, but they were
just scared to take the risk of a new writer for financial reasons.
Most of the big houses, the "big boys," were just saying
"no way." I had two professional editors, so I knew
the writing was OK. One of my editors had worked for one of the
largest publishers in NYC. She even hooked me up with publishing
house she'd worked at, but it was the same old thing.
I went through those years of rejections feeling really defeated,
but I didn't want to give up. Then when I came into contact with
Patricia Nell Warren, she encouraged me to start my own publishing
company. She had bought back the rights to her books from the
big publisher she was with originally, and she started Wildcat
Press, her own company. She said, "Tracey, publish your own
books. You have no control over your own work when someone else
is handling it."
I was working as the graphic design manager
for a book distributor at that time, so I'd seen that part of
the publishing industry. I started doing research on a then new
technology--Print On Demand or POD. I'd seen how books and money
are wasted going through the standard publishing channels, so
POD sounded like a great way to start out my company with very
I contacted Booksurge, a small Southern POD company at the time.
I worked with some really wonderful people there who believed
in our vision of getting the work out to people worldwide. These
folks are great and have always treated me and Kathy with total
respect! Really refreshing, especially in the South where prejudice
still reigns. The wonderful thing is that Booksurge has grown
into a worldwide company, and last year it was purchased by Amazon.com!
Our books were already on Amazon, but after Booksurge merged with
them, our sales have skyrocketed worldwide.
KW: What Tracey didn't say
is that the company website was born on 9/11; that fateful day
we all remember so well. The book distributor where she was working
closed down for the day, and she was sent home. I worked community
mental health, and the agency I worked at stayed open to help
the community deal with the emotional effects. When I got home,
Tracey was sitting on the couch designing the website on her laptop.
She told me, after what happened, that she wanted to really make
a difference in the world. She said she wasnt sure if the
whole country was going to be bombed, but she decided if it happened
that way, at least she would die doing what she was meant to do.
I believe the company was really born from the compilation of
events: 9/11, her mentors comments, and our desire to make
a difference in the world for women coming to terms with their
sexual identity. Those three things came together around the same
time, and if not for them, in my eyes, this adventure might never
GH: "How to Be A Happy Lesbian:
A Coming Out Guide" has been downloaded over 2,000 times
from women all over the world. Why do you think it is so popular?
TS: Part of the reason the
Ebook is so popular is ease of access. All of our books are available
as both Ebooks and soft-cover editions. We have the Ebooks available
directly from our website, so that women who are still closeted
can get the information without having to go into a bookstore
and publicly out themselves.
I also think people really like the Coming Out Guide because it
was written from the heart with important information that many
books do not include. Both Kathy and I were very passionate about
this book, and it shows in the way it was written.
Before "How to Be A Happy Lesbian" was released, we
sent it to Patricia Nell Warren to read, and she told us it was
like a "Lesbian Encyclopedia!" She said the only thing
she'd add to it, was a section on domestic partner abuse.
Kathy and I had not even thought of that, so we literally stopped
the presses, researched and added the new section on domestic
partner abuse, and released the book a month late. This totally
screwed up the marketing plan, but we felt the information was
important enough to warrant this happening.
Even though I'd been out for 25 years, when I started researching
information for the book, some of the information I found was
surprising to me--like the lesbian and bisexual role models throughout
history. We aren't taught about these folks in school, and it
made me feel great to learn of all the influential women throughout
history who were also lesbian or BI It really made me laugh to
find out that "America the Beautiful" was written by
a woman for her lesbian lover of 25 years while traveling cross-country
in a Conestoga wagon!
Other things that I learned that really fueled my fire on LGBT
Marriage issues was all the rights we don't have as tax paying
citizens of the US. I'm still disturbed over what I learned, and
we now have the list of over 1,000 rights we don't have as lesbians
on the website here:
KW: I agree with Tracey, that
the ease of getting the book is instrumental in people's downloading.
I also think that the information it covers is very broad. The
Coming Out Guide gives a more rounded sense of our community's
history, and issues that are important to consider when dealing
with a relationship, what to consider if you want a therapist,
domestic violence, whatever. Strangely enough, I worked doing
emergency services, and did a lot of counseling with women in
domestic violence situations, but just didn't think about applying
that to lesbians. It was great of Patricia Nell Warren to make
that suggestion. Most women just don't consider that there could
be woman-on-woman violence, but, unfortunately, it does rear its
ugly head in the GLBT communities as well as in the heterosexual
GH: What do you think "How
To Be A Happy Lesbian" offers that other coming out books
TS: I'm not sure about other
Coming Out books. To tell you the truth, I didn't read any before
writing our book. There weren't that many for just women available
at that time, and I wanted our book to be from our experiences--not
someone else's. Kathy and I included chapters on:
How to accept yourself if you are a lesbian and suggestions on
how to cope in the world today; Coming out in a non-supportive
environment and where to get help if you need it; The language
of being lesbian and what all the symbols mean; What do the labels
lesbian, gay, bisexual, straight, and all the in-betweens mean;
Where to go to meet others who are lesbian, and the art of knowing
who is and who isn't; What is Gaydar; Lesbian anatomy with illustrations
to help you learn the spots that please a woman most; Plain talk
about safer sex, which contains a list of common sexually transmitted
diseases and their symptoms and general treatments; What's considered
safe, risky, or unsafe behavior, and handy items for safer sex.;
What to consider if you and your partner are considering having
a child; Relationship skills and the rules of communication; Advice
on romance and how to love not only your partner's body, but also
her heart and mind; Pointers on making love, including instructions
on how to find some of the spots that please a woman most; How
to cope if you or your partner have experienced childhood sexual,
physical, or emotional abuse; Domestic partner abuse issues and
how to get help if you need it; Facts on counseling and what to
expect if you need to see a therapist; Dealing with the outside
world including radical, homophobic people; Our "civil rights"
in the USA; Lesbian movie reviews from the 1930s until now; Lesbian
and gay role models you may not have known about.
GH: Was your coming-out
especially difficult? Can you talk about it? Do you wish you had
a guidebook to help you through it, at the time?
TS: My coming out was very
hard, because I was already living in an abusive situation. I
knew I loved women from the time I was in a crib, but I didn't
dare tell anyone anything. Of course my relatives had suspicions
very early--it was pretty obvious when I painted "I love
Kay M.," my gym teacher's name, on my parents driveway
in big pink letters when I was in the 4th grade! We were also
living in Central Florida in the middle of the Anita Bryant anti-gay
tirade, which made coming out even harder.
Because of all this, I tried to suppress who I was, but I fell
hard for my first girlfriend at 15, and our relationship became
more than romantic when we both turned 16. Things went downhill
family-wise from there, and I was locked out of the house I grew
up in at 17. I lived with my grandmother for a few months, then
moved in with my first girlfriend's Southern Baptist parents.
These folks did not know that two of their four children are lesbian.
My girlfriend and I were in hot, teenaged love, sleeping on a
squeaky fold-out couch in the same room with her straight sister!
Talk about pent-up sexuality! When my girlfriend and I turned
19, we bought a mobile home in a very scary trailer park--the
things you do for love. Those were hard, struggling years, where
we were pretty darned poor, but her family taught me what the
real meaning of love and what a real family is, and I am so grateful
Of course, back then there was no Internet, and I would have loved
to have a guide book for my coming out. All I had were fictional
novels. The first gay book I ever read was titled "The Beauty
Queen." It was very similar to my Anita Bryant years, so
I really related to that book, and guess who wrote it? Patricia
Nell Warren, who is now my mentor! Strange how all those years
ago a novel helped me come out, and then years later, the person
who wrote that novel encouraged me to write my own book on coming
out. I guess that's how the universe works.
KW: My coming out wasn't especially
difficult. I had a family full of ground-breakers that made it
easier for me. My father is gay, and of his three siblings, two
are also homosexual. It was hardest on my mother, but she handled
it really well; especially considering the hopes and dreams she
had for my life didn't include having society looking down on
me. She has always been very supportive, and treats Tracey like
one of the family. It wasn't difficult for my father or his siblings
to accept me as a lesbian. After all, they went through it before
I did. It was infinitely harder for them to come out than it was
for me though. I'm amazed at the courage it took for all of them
to acknowledge their orientations just because of the time periods
they did it in.
GH: What makes your company different
from other lesbian-focused companies/publishers?
TS: I would say the difference
would be in the range of things we offer. We have over 2,000 free
resources on our website, and I don't see a lot of publishers
doing this. Along with our Support For Lesbians Coming Out group,
we also have 4 Regional Networking groups, and several more Networking
Groups for women in English speaking countries. The Networking
Groups are for friendship and meeting women. For dating we have
online dating tips and links to dating websites that our members
have suggested to us. We also have online galleries set up for
LGBT and LGBT Friendly artists, that feature over 950 designs
as free Ecards; the top 75 lesbian movie reviews; LGBT News Feeds;
LGBT Marriage Updates; "Out There" Lesbian Comic Strip;
Astroflash Lesbian Horoscopes; an online Flower Shop for lesbians;
a coming out section on our website that has over 100 resources;
an online bookstore that features books from other publishers;
links to lesbian and fantasy women art prints and magnets, lesbian
pride gear, and lesbian commitment and wedding rings. We offer
a lot on our website, and we are always looking for ways to offer
GH: Do you ever see your
books "How To Be A Happy Lesbian" and "Lesbian
Sex Tips" being printed by a mainstream publisher? Have mainstream
publishers been interested in buying them?
TS: Right now, both of our
books are being reviewed by large LGBT publishers in Mexico and
Spain. We are totally open to selling the rights to publishers
in foreign countries who know about the distribution in those
It would be nice to have our books in larger chain bookstores
here in the US, but to tell you the truth, we make way more money
selling our own books both online and through our distribution
channels. With many of our LGBT bookstores going the way of the
dinosaurs, Kathy and I believe that online companies will fill
that void, and we are ready for that.
Another reason I wouldn't want to sell our rights here in the
US, is because most mainstream publishers do not like the idea
of giving away books. Every woman who joins our Support For Lesbians
Coming Out Group gets a free Ebook of our Coming Out Guide. Because
some of our members are underaged, the free version does not have
the more explicit making love chapter, but the rest of the information
is included for anyone who needs it.
KW: The other part of staying
self-published is we are in control of the books and what happens
to them. We don't have to worry about disagreements with the publishers.
We have the vision we want, and don't have to compromise it to
a publishing company somewhere.
GH: If you are a couple,
what are the challenges of working, loving and living together?
TS: It's tough living with
someone who works in artistic fields, and is driven to do what
I'm doing. To keep Amazing Dreams Publishing and my client's website
businesses running smoothly, I usually work 15 hour days at least
5 days a week. I study Search Engine Optimization daily, which
keeps all the websites high in the search engines. You get a lot
when you work with me, but there's not a lot of downtime, which
makes it hard on Kathy. I usually do only emails on the weekends
before 12pm, and the rest of the time is for us to be together.
Another one of our biggest challenges is our animals. We have
5 cats, 2 dogs, a pigeon, and our company mascot is my Paso Fino
Stallion, Angelote de Luna. Simply put, we live in a zoo--although
our furry friends do bring us a lot of joy.
KW: It does have its challenges.
Strangely enough, we don't have a lot of conflict over much of
anything but the laundry. One of the top things that people fight
over is money and we've never done that. I do counseling work
outside of the house, so that helps us to have some separate time.
The challenges are more in line of time logistics than anything
else. Finding time for each other and not getting locked into
what we feel we need to do. Sometimes it helps to just look at
things by asking ourselves, "When I die, am I gonna regret
doing, or not doing, this?" Kind of like the old question
of being on the deathbed and saying, "Gee, I wish I had worked
more!" vs "Gee, I wish I had spent more time with my
GH: What were your career backgrounds
prior to establishing this business?
TS: I had studied art and
writing my whole life, but everyone kept telling me that I would
never make any money at it. I settled for a degree in Mechanical
Engineering/Technical Illustration. The technical illustration
end took care of my need to create art, but I found so much prejudice
from men in my field, that I became a graphic/web designer instead.
I've always written stories since I was a little kid, and won
several awards in school, so writing and art are the things I
love most--that and working with animals--especially horses.
KW: Professionally, I've worked
in the same field for almost 16 years. I've worked inpatient psychiatric,
outpatient case management and therapy, emergency mental health
services in community mental health settings, and outpatient private
practice. I've done individual and group therapy as part of these
GH: What motivated you
to work for yourselves?
TS: I was getting very tired
of working my butt off for someone else while they made all the
money. I was designing catalogs and websites for a book distributor
when I started the publishing company. Between the two places,
I was putting in around 80 hours a week. When 9/11 happened, sales
took a huge dive in the book industry, and a little over a year
later the book distributor laid off half the staff. I was part
of that layoff, and even though I was terrified out of my mind,
I decided I'd never work for anyone else but myself. I started
really focusing on Amazing Dreams Publishing and also AD Graphic
Design--my graphics/web design company, and I have never looked
KW: I had a long history of
working in systems. I've worked at universities, hospitals, and
for the state mental health in two states. Having to jump through
all the bureaucratic hoops got really old and overwhelming. Paperwork
became what was more important than clients. It was time to get
away from the fact that some systems think that paper is more
important than people.
GH: Do you still have
day jobs or has this venture become so successful that you don't
TS: Amazing Dreams Publishing
had its 5th anniversary in October, so from what I've been told,
we are just now entering the profit-making era. I'm hoping that
eventually I can slack off a bit on the Graphic/Website design
end, which I guess would be considered my day job, and start writing
again. I've got books in my brain that are demanding to get out,
but no time to let them flow.
KW: We are both still working.
As Tracey said, the business is starting to take off, but we still
need our day jobs to make ends meet. Eventually, we hope that
we can create a number of spin-offs of the publishing company
that will help women grow and stand more in their own power. To
do that we have to nurture the publishing company so that we can
expand into different areas.
GH: How do you hope to expand
your business in the future? What plans do you have?
TS: My dream since I was very
young has been to create a community where women can live and
work together in a safe haven. So my biggest goal is to have a
large tract of land somewhere here in the mountains of North Carolina
where this can happen. Kathy and I also want to have a conference
center that offers all kinds of workshops and seminars: writing
conferences, relationship seminars; Kathy can offer counseling
services. I'm also very much into horses, I've had horses all
my life, and at some point I want to incorporate my knowledge
of horses and provide therapeutic programs for people who have
been abused. When I was little, the only thing that saved my life
was my horse. I was a small person who was able to ride on a very
large, powerful animal. He gave me so much strength that I made
it through those years of being abused. When I was on him I felt
safe. If not for my horse, Shane, I would not be alive today,
and I'd like to help others gain back their power through relationships
KW: Pretty much what Tracey
said above. I'd love to do human potential type seminars, and
help people leave behind old patterns they have outgrown and need
to release. I'd also like to gear these seminars toward people
realizing the strengths they have, and the wondrous parts of themselves
that they don't know are there.
GH: What are some of the
more recent projects you've begun, as part of Amazing Dreams?
TS: Right now we are working
on a new Ebook called "The Lesbian Big O: Over 100 Sensual
Illustrations." We are also wanting to include some of these
illustrations in new releases of both our Coming Out and Sex Tips
Guides. I've been working on the illustrations for several months
now--very entertaining to say the least. I've also got two novels
almost ready to be released, so 2007 should be a very busy year.
GH: Where did you get the name
Amazing Dreams from?
TS: When Kathy and I first
decided to move to Asheville, NC, we were going to open a co-op
gallery. We had designed the floor plan so that we could utilize
a lot of walls to show artists' work in a very small space. When
we finished the floor plan, it looked like a maze. The art I had
been showing in Florida was primarily from meditation and dreams,
so we came up with Amazing Dreams.
GH: What is the theme
that links all of your many Amazing Dreams services together?
TS: I would say that if you
can visualize or dream it, then you can do it. I want other people
worldwide to realize the power that they have when they accept
themselves for who they are. There's nothing like loving yourself,
and accepting your own personal power. I think that is the theme
that's always in my mind.
KW: I agree that it is not
only the personal power but also acknowledging each other, forming
communities, and tolerance for our differences, not just our similarities.
GH: What are your favorite projects
you've done, as part of Amazing Dreams?
TS: We just had our first
conference in October. Women from as far away as Australia flew
in to spend the weekend in gorgeous Asheville. It was a blast,
and I'm hoping that we can do lots more of these really soon!
KW: I agree with that. We
timed it to coincide with Asheville's First Annual PrideFest.
I'm on the Board for PrideFest and we are planning to have the
Second Annual PrideFest in October 2007 as well.
GH: What are some of the
signs that your business has taken off in the lesbian community?
TS: When people come knocking
at our door for interviews, like this one! We have also been selected
as featured writers for the new LesbiaNation Magazine, which we
are very happy to be a part of. We have lots of people who email
us and tell us how much they love our website. Our books have
also been reviewed in several lesbian magazines, and of course
the web stats speak for themselves--over 1 million hits a month
from over 100,000 visitors! I truly believe we are making a difference
in the lives of women worldwide, and I cant wait to see
what happens next!
Tracey Stevens and Cathy Wonder
Co-authors of "Lesbian Sex Tips: A Guide for Anyone Who
Wants to Bring Pleasure to the Woman She (Or He) Loves"
and "How To Be A Happy Lesbian: A Coming Out Guide"
Their website provides over 1,000 free community services
for lesbian and bisexual women worldwide!