Table of Contents

Author's Note

Chapter 1: Body talk and basic women's anatomy
What’s the use of learning this?
People ARE different.
What is bodily communication?
So what can a body say?
Erogenous zones—places that both give you chills and make you hot
Breasts are more than “Got Milk?”
Introducing the vulva, and I don’t mean the car

Chapter 2: Plain talk about safer sex
What is safer sex?
But I thought women couldn’t get STDs from each other.
So what can I do to protect myself?
Handy items for safer sex
What’s considered safe, risky, or unsafe behavior?
If you and your partner are considering having a child
A serious warning
A list of STDs, their symptoms, and general treatment
For more info

Chapter 3: Communication: the key to working relationships
Basic rules of communication
Them’s fightin’ words
Coming out
Trust
How to discuss sexually transmitted disease
Pillow talk

Chapter 4: Romance and the art of making lesbian love
Romance, the best way to keep a relationship happy
Some romantic things to do
First things first
Before foreplay—what to do to get her, and you, in the mood
Do not be afraid of being a great lover.
So how do I know when she’s getting in the mood?
Foreplay, the next step to passion
The move to sexual intimacy
Some other techniques and positions
Adult toys—let’s take the pleasure a step furthe
Other ways of being sexua
Childhood abuse: sexual, physical, and emotion
Domestic partner abuse
Chapter 5: Counseling, from a therapist’s point of view
Introduction
Your options for counseling
The counseling process
Some methods used in therapy
Confidentiality
Considerations
Through the looking glass:
A section for therapists unfamiliar with lesbians and gay menChapter 6: Living in the primarily heterosexual USA
A final little soapbox
Our “civil rights” in the US
Don’t laws protect gay people from discrimination?
Why aren’t gay people protected? They pay taxes too.
The privilege of being heterosexual
Heterosexism, a right of the majority?
Heterosexual, choice or not?

Bibliography
Reference Books
Resources
Helping your family understand
Where to go for help if you’ve been sexually abused
Online support for women who are victims of domestic partner abuse;
childhood psychological, physical or sexual abuse; rape and hate crimes
Friendly places to buy books and videos
Toys, safer sex items, and other stuff for women
Internet hosting
Electronic cards for and by women

Author's Note

The reason I decided to write Lesbian Sex Tips is because I’ve had multitudes of discussions with all kinds of people who are dissatisfied with their sex lives. Many women complain that their partners just don’t know what to do, and some of those women have very little knowledge of their own bodies and what it takes to please themselves. Not that I’m saying that everyone should go off and masturbate for days on end, but it does help to know thyself. The men who are having relationship troubles stemming from sex seem to truly want to make their partners happy, but most are too embarrassed to talk about it to anyone.

One such man I worked with several years ago. After he learned I was lesbian and that I didn’t hate him for being male, we had some very meaningful talks. I spoke of life and prejudice and how hard it is to be different than most people, and he told me how difficult it is to be expected to always keep your emotions in and never cry. I wondered why he looked so sad, and after a few weeks he finally opened his heart to me. He was having trouble with his girlfriend, who he was very much in love with, and said for some reason he just could not please her sexually. By the redness in his cheeks, I think it took a lot for him to admit this. I told him that there are many lesbians who don’t know what to do either, and that he should not feel so bad about it. I suggested a couple of books, which he seemed squeamish about purchasing in a local book store. This was back before you could hop out on the Internet and buy whatever you wanted in relative anonymity. After several days he finally built up enough courage to ask me if I had any advice on what he could do to satisfy his girlfriend. He was not sexually harassing me in any way, which is why I agreed to reveal one lesbian sex tip. We both were embarrassed as I described what to do, but I told him because I cared about him and wanted to see him happy.

The next day his girlfriend came in the shop. She was smiling as she walked up to me, and with tears in her eyes she thanked me. Seems the sex tip had not only helped her to finally have an orgasm, but it had also provided a way for the two of them to start communicating like they never had before.

I don’t know if they are still together, but I do know that that one little sex tip changed both their lives for the better. Their story is just one of the many which prompted me to put this manual together. It is written by me, someone who has been with women for more than half my life, and my partner who is a therapist. She taught me how to communicate, and believe me I don’t get away with not discussing my feelings when I’m around her!

Sex is only a small part of who we really are, but being good at it is a wonderful gift to both you and your partner. If you truly want to become not only a better lover, but also a better human being, then get Lesbian Sex Tips. It may be one of the best things you could ever do for yourself and the person you love.

LESBIAN SEX TIPS: A GUIDE FOR ANYONE WHO WANTS TO
BRING PLEASURE TO THE WOMAN SHE (OR HE) LOVES
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